Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you're striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide.

As polyamory continues to make its way into the mainstream, more and more people are exploring consensual nonmonogamy in the hope of experiencing more love, connection, sex, freedom and support. While for many, the move expands personal horizons, for others, the transition can be challenging, leaving them blindsided and overwhelmed. Beyond the initial transition to nonmonogamy, many struggle with the root issues beneath the symptoms of broken agreements, communication challenges, increased fighting and persistent jealousy.

Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern and restorative justice facilitator David Cooley share the insights they have gained through thousands of hours working with clients in consensually nonmonogamous relationships. Using a grounded theory approach, they explore the underlying challenges that nonmonogamous individuals and partners can experience after their first steps, offering practical strategies for transforming them into opportunities for new levels of clarity and intimacy.

Polywise provides both the conceptual framework to better understand the shift from monogamy to nonmonogamy and the tools to navigate the next steps.

This audiobook includes a supplemental pdf.

The Polysecure Workbook encourages examination of any attachment challenges you may have experienced in your opening up process and offers insights into how to build secure relationships. Through practical exercises, you will explore your own attachment history, examine your reasons for practicing nonmonogamy and the different styles of nonmonogamy that you relate to, and consider whether you rely on relationship structure for your attachment security. The Polysecure Workbook provides the tools needed to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships and to build personal security.

Jessica Fern extends attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. In Polysecure, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships and sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. The Polysecure Workbook builds on this basis with practical exercises to encourage contemplation of your attachment style and create more secure relationships. This is a bundle of two books: Polysecure and The Polysecure Workbook.

How can we create secure, happy attachments with multiple partners? This set of two books and a fold-out poster is a practical toolkit for building secure attachments in polyamory.

In Polysecure, psychotherapist Jessica Fern extends attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. The accompanying folded poster displays her HEARTS framework--six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in multiple relationships--and The Polysecure Workbook provides practical prompts to explore your own attachment history and reasons for practicing nonmonogamy. The Complete Polysecure Bundle provides the tools needed to navigate multiple loving relationships and to build personal security.

Can you love more than one person? A lot of conversations about nonmonogamy start this way. When we discuss opening relationships, contemplate whether we want to be exclusive with our partners, or introduce multiple partners to friends and family, we are asking the people in our lives, and ourselves, to contend with this question.

The answer is obvious, and misleading. The love one feels in their heart and the love one expresses through daily acts of care and affection are both love in the true sense, but they have different requirements, present different options and produce different outcomes.

More Than Two can't promise outcomes, but it is a guide to the paths--from anchor or nesting partnerships to relationship anarchy--possible within nonmonogamy. This long-awaited second edition bridges emerging theories on attachment and relationship diversity with authors Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin's insight and experience. The arcs of nonmonogamous partnerships bend towards complexity, introspection and compromise--or at least they can, if we work at it.

This audiobook includes a supplemental pdf.

Talking about consent can feel overwhelming, especially for young people who may be navigating their own boundaries for the first time. In Say More, consent culture activist Kitty Stryker guides teenagers in exploring what consent means to them. This timely and practical workbook allows the reader to work at their own pace and in their own way, with concrete examples from Kitty's own youth, prompts inspired by questions teens have asked her and comprehensive resources to encourage further exploration and introspection.

Polyamory can be fun, sweet and even liberating. But ethical nonmonogamy can also take work. In A Polyamory Devotional, relationship coach Evita Lavitaloca Sawyers streamlines the vast abstractions of working on yourself into a guided tour of rigorous self-reflection. Building upon her wealth of experience in fostering the journey from monogamy to nonmonogamy, Sawyers invites you to ask yourself the big questions. Can compersion and jealousy coexist? How do we hold space for hurt we didn't cause?

Through 365 daily prompts, you are encouraged to develop the tools of emotional diligence that will serve you for a lifetime. For those eager to love authentically but overwhelmed by the emotional process of polyamory, this is your reminder that you don't have to do it alone.

Too often, the neurodivergent community is marginalized, de-sexualized or patronized. Neurodivergent people are often not seen as part of the romantic or sexual landscape, let alone as people who can have multiple partners. However, the fact that neurodivergent people do not see the world or operate within it as other people do makes nonmonogamy both uniquely challenging and uniquely well-suited to them.

This book is for neurodivergent people considering or practicing nonmonogamy. Its goal is to help neurodivergent people understand how well-suited they are to the polyamorous life, and to help them recognize and manage the challenges that being neurodivergent can bring to nonmonogamy. It is also for the partners and potential partners of neurodivergent people, to encourage them to understand different perspectives and to help them be understanding, accommodating and well-informed. Nomonogamous relationships do not belong exclusively to the neurotypicals, but to us all.,

Polyamory is not always easy. With multiple partners often come more complex relationships to navigate. This practical guide looks at the common causes of polyamorous breakups, identifies strategies to avoid ending relationships, and provides you with the toolkit to survive a breakup. Kathy Labriola uses real life examples and expert insight as a counselor and nurse. From how to handle jealousy to the practicalities of managing money and time with multiple partners, this book includes tips and insights from the polyamory community. It is inevitable that some relationships will end in a breakup. This book helps you maintain friendships and minimize the impact of a breakup on the rest of your polycule and wider community. Unlike traditional breakup guides, Labriola's book offers insight specific to the polyamory community and addresses the unique challenges that come with multiple partners.

He's not sure he's ever been real. She's not sure she'll ever be whole again.

Beckett Davis has been many things: reliable, likeable, on track to be the most accurate kicker in professional football history, and multiple-time winner of made-up awards, like pro-athlete with the most beautiful smile.

He's also spent a lifetime shouldering responsibilities that didn't belong to him, but he doesn't like to think about that. Until a missed kick makes him one of the most hated people in the city and lands him doing damage control as a volunteer in his least favourite place: a hospital.

But it's where he meets her.

Greer Roberts deals in logic and absolutes. She spends her days performing surgery and staying behind carefully constructed boundaries that keep what's left of her safe, even though she's not sure how either of those things make her feel anymore. There is one thing she's absolutely certain of, though: she doesn't date. So it doesn't matter that a downtrodden Beckett Davis ends up in the same elevator as her, and, in a moment of weakness, she invites him to volunteer with her patients.

She might see right through him, and he might understand her in a way that no one else ever has, but they're just business acquaintances.

Until they're not. And nothing scares her more than that.

The love story we're all familiar with ends with ... and they lived happily ever after. But how often do we hear a nonmonogamous love story with that ending? In all kinds of contexts, nonmonogamous happiness is erased. From the ubiquitous friend who tried it once and it didn't end well to Dan Savage's long-term jokes about never being invited to a polyamorous third wedding anniversary, we are repeatedly assured that nonmonogamy leads to misery. In real love, we are taught to expect the opposite: to expect happiness. When we want to ask if someone's relationship is going well, we ask if they are happy with their partner. We might even ask whether their partner makes them happy. But what does love have to do with happiness? Doesn't love have space to accommodate the full range of emotional experience? Carrie Jenkins thinks it does, or at least it can. She draws connections between the expectation that love will make us happy and the undue focus on positive emotions to the exclusion of negative ones. She argues that love--monogamous or otherwise--might better aim at being eudaimonic than at being happy, and that we have a better chance of achieving this if we are able to make relationship choices free from the prejudices and distortions that lead to an unduly rosy view of monogamy and an unduly miserable picture of the alternatives.

Nonmonogamy has exploded in popularity over recent decades, spawning dozens of how-to guides and countless media articles. But quietly, in the wake of this wave of non-traditional relationships, a growing number of people have moved away from the nonmonogamy they once practiced. It's not about rejecting nonmonogamy as bad or wrong. For some, trauma or the stresses of everyday life got in the way of multiple committed relationships; others lost their motivation to pursue new partners. Some ended up monogamous by attrition, and others are single by choice.

What's it like on the other side of nonmonogamy? How did you get there? How does your life reflect what you learned along the way? Is nonmonogamy an identity or a practice? And do you think you might ever jump back in?

Post-Nonmonogamy and Beyond invites you to explore these questions in a spirit of self-reflection, self-compassion and curiosity.

The issues that make monogamous dating daunting for people of color--shaming and exclusion by white partners, being fetishized, having realities of everyday racism ignored--occur in polyamorous relationships too, and trying not to see race only makes it worse. To make polyamorous communities inclusive, we must all acknowledge our part in perpetuating racism and listen to people of color. Love's Not Color Blind puts forward the framework--through research, anecdotal testimony, and analogy--for understanding, identifying, and confronting racism within polyamorous communities.

Even in progressive families and communities, people who practice nonmonogamy are susceptible to misinformation and accusations of moral and emotional failings. Facing this requires its own coming out and education process. In this guide, Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles provide a roadmap for explaining the expansive intricacies of the consensual nonmonogamy spectrum. By fusing personal experience and community research, they break down the various incarnations of polyamorous relationship structures, polyamory's intersections with race and gender, and the seemingly esoteric jargon of the lifestyle.Topics include everything from how to explain what a unicorn hunter is to answering questions like, Can poly people raise children? and Can they live normal, healthy lives? Such conversations are eloquently explained and the real dangers of being out as poly in a monogamy-centered society are laid bare.

Have you ever heard the phrase It's easier to ask forgiveness than permission? Violating consent isn't limited to sexual relationships, and our discussions around consent shouldn't be, either. To resist rape culture, we need a consent culture--and one that is more than just reactionary. Left confined to intimate spaces, consent will atrophy as theory that is never put into practice. The multi-layered power disparities of today's world require a response sensitive to a wide range of lived experiences. In Ask, Kitty Stryker assembles a retinue of writers, journalists, and activists to examine how a cultural politic centered on consent can empower us outside the bedroom, whether it's at the doctor's office, interacting with law enforcement, or calling out financial abuse within radical communities. More than a collection of essays, Ask is a testimony and guide on the role that negated consent plays in our lives, examining how we can take those first steps to reclaim it from institutionalized power.

With many complete calculation examples covering some primary and secondary aircraft structures, Becoming an Aircraft Stress Engineer is a great companion to the Aerospace engineer who wants to acquire real stress analysis hands-on experience rapidly. Filled with some technical as well as life-at-work advice and comments, the book guides the reader in a similar way to a mentor-ship by demonstrating how to performs analyses on aircraft structures starting from drawings (3D models) and resulting in aircraft certification stress reports.

The examples use hand calculations, spreadsheets, as well as some Finite Element Analysis. Primary as well as Secondary structures are covered. The author guides the reader by sharing his thoughts as to what analysis approach should be used for substantiating a structure. He flags the typical mistakes that are made and how to avoid them.

Although filled with somewhat real life structural analyses, this book is not intended to be a design manual on its own but a companion to other existing very good analysis tools references. Its purpose is to show the reader a map of the analysis approach to be followed depending on the type of structure. Whether the structure is metallic or composite, this book shows the approach that the author used over the years that will help the reader become a proficient Aircraft Stress Engineer.

​​Rarely does the question of death come up in discussions of nonmonogamy. But whether it's sudden or expected, nonmonogamous people must face death like anyone else--as well as its consequences on those left behind after a loved one is gone.

As nonmonogamous people, how can we plan ahead for our own and our loved ones' deaths? How can we best navigate a funeral industry that may not understand our relationships, a legal system that's not set up to recognize our commitments, and a social world that can be unfriendly to grieving partners outside the monogamous model? How do we take care of ourselves and each other in times of grief and loss?

In Nonmonogamy and Death, Kayden Abley leads us through these difficult and tender questions with compassion and care, providing guidance to help you find your own answers.

What does consent culture mean to you? Navigating the complex, never-ending work of culture change can be overwhelming at times. Whether you're exploring what consent means in your personal life or as part of your work in the world, Ask Yourself guides you through the introspection necessary for lasting change. In Ask: Building Consent Culture, consent culture activist Kitty Stryker compiled a diverse collection of essays from people working on questions of how to build a culture of consent in our everyday world. This timely and practical companion workbook invites you to take a journey through your own thoughts on consent and consider how you can help build consent culture. Ask Yourself guides you through a structured exploration with prompts for 28 days of journaling, conversations and other work. The prompts are split into four sections on distinct themes that allow you to explore consent at your own pace and in your own way. This thoughtful book also features short contributions from consent culture activists to help inspire reflection.

Millions of people worldwide are coping with depression. Whether it's you, a family member, a friend or a partner -- odds are depression affects your life. Even so, many of us don't know what to do when it hits someone we care about. JoEllen Notte challenges the preconceived notions that keep us from showing up for each other in a meaningful way and offers strategies for supporting each other and ourselves when depression comes calling. Challenging the notions that tell us that's not my business or they probably don't want to talk about that, In It Together equips readers to navigate depression alongside the people they care about. Informed by interviews with over 200 people coping with depression and featuring practical tips and real-life examples, In it Together is an insightful and much-needed guidebook for people with depression and those who love them.