What is masculinity? Ask ten men and you'll get ten vague, conflicting answers. Unlike any book of its kind, The Way of Men offers a simple, straightforward answer-without getting bogged down in religion, morality, or politics. It's a guide for understanding who men have been and the challenges men face today. The Way of Men captures the silent, stifling rage of men everywhere who find themselves at odds with the over-regulated, over-civilized, politically correct modern world. If you've ever closed your eyes and wished for one day as a lion, this book is for you.

The 25th anniversary edition of the groundbreaking New York Times bestseller, with a new afterword by the author--which offers a new vision of what it is to be a man.

In this timeless and deeply learned classic, poet and translator Robert Bly offers nothing less than a new vision of what it means to be a man.

Bly's vision is based on his ongoing work with men, as well as on reflections on his own life. He addresses the devastating effects of remote fathers and mourns the disappearance of male initiation rites in our culture. Finding rich meaning in ancient stories and legends, Bly uses the Grimm fairy tale Iron John-in which a mentor or Wild Man guides a young man through eight stages of male growth-to remind us of ways of knowing long forgotten, images of deep and vigorous masculinity centered in feeling and protective of the young.

At once down-to-earth and elevated, combining the grandeur of myth with the practical and often painful lessons of our own histories, Iron John is an astonishing work that will continue to guide and inspire men-and women-for years to come.

A map for men...[Moore and Gillette] are handing men concrete images and explicit ways of thinking and being, ways to mature and still remain fully masculine.--Chicago Sun-Times

The classic guide to the four essential male archetypes.

Masculinity is on trial, leaving many men feeling lost, threatened, or unable to clearly express themselves. Instead of leading to internal growth and maturity, paradigms like toxic masculinity and man up! ultimately lead to men and boys feeling isolated, angry, and unable to hold steady and healthy relationships--with themselves and others. King, Warrior, Magician, Lover dispels these and other common myths and stereotypes and offers a new framework for understanding men and their many facets--and the societal and emotional factors that make us who we are.

In this classic guide, Jungian analysts Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette make the argument that mature masculinity is not abusive or domineering, but generative, creative, and empowering of the self and others. Through a psychological lens, they clearly define the four mature male archetypes that stand out through myth and literature across history:

- The king--the energy of just and creative ordering

- The warrior--the energy of aggressive but nonviolent action

- The magician--the energy of initiation and transformation

- The lover--the energy that connects one to others and the world

As well as the four immature patterns that interfere with masculine potential (divine child, oedipal child, trickster, and hero). In the realm of shadow work, and by providing reflective prompts, Moore and Gillette offer space for understanding our individual and collective strengths and weaknesses, and the self-awareness and empathy that can be gained in the process.

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover is a must read for men searching for secure attachments in relationships, healthy emotional regulation, a deep sense of purpose, and the strength it takes to be selfless--and for all of us who love and raise them. Deepen your understanding of yourself and your archetype to become a more empathetic, assured, and fulfilled man.

The Book that Sparked a National Conversation

A Barack Obama 2024 Summer Reading Selection

An Economist Best Book of 2022

A New Yorker Best Book of 2022

Boys and men are struggling. Profound economic and social changes of recent decades have many losing ground in the classroom, the workplace, and in the family. While the lives of women have changed, the lives of many men have remained the same or even worsened.

In this widely praised book, Richard Reeves, father of three sons, a journalist, and now the president of the American Institute for Boys and Men, tackles the complex and urgent crisis of boyhood and manhood. He argues that our attitudes, our institutions, and our laws have failed to keep up. Conservative and progressive politicians, mired in their own ideological warfare, fail to provide thoughtful solutions.

Reeves looks at the structural challenges that face boys and men and offers fresh and innovative solutions that turn the page on the corrosive narrative that plagues this issue. Of Boys and Men argues that helping the other half of society does not mean giving up on the ideal of gender equality.

From a Washington Post critic and self-described meathead, a witty, incisive, poignant exploration of male body image, from the history of the gym to the politics of superheroes to the world of manfluencers

Michael Andor Brodeur is a Gen-X gay writer with a passion for bodybuilding and an insatiable curiosity about masculinity--a concept in which many men are currently struggling to find their place. In our current moment, where manfluencers on TikTok tease their audiences with their latest videos, where right-wing men espouse the importance of being alpha, as toxic masculinity and the patriarchy are being rightfully criticized, the nature of masculinity has become murkier than ever.

In excavating this complex topic, Brodeur uses the male body as his guide: its role in cultures from the gymnasia of ancient Greece to Walt Whitman's essays on manly health, from the rise of Muscular Christianity in 19th-century America to the swollen superheroes and Arnold Schwarzeneggers of Brodeur's childhood. Interweaving history, cultural criticism, memoir, and reportage, laced with an irrepressible wit, Brodeur takes us into the unique culture centered around men's bodies, probing its limitations and the promise beyond: how men can love themselves while rejecting the aggression, objectification, and misogyny that have for so long accompanied the quest to become swole.

A nonfiction investigation into masculinity, For The Love of Men provides actionable steps for how to be a man in the modern world, while also exploring how being a man in the world has evolved.

In 2019, traditional masculinity is both rewarded and sanctioned. Men grow up being told that boys don't cry and dolls are for girls (a newer phenomenon than you might realize--gendered toys came back in vogue as recently as the 80s). They learn they must hide their feelings and anxieties, that their masculinity must constantly be proven. They must be the breadwinners, they must be the romantic pursuers. This hasn't been good for the culture at large: 99% of school shooters are male; men in fraternities are 300% ( ) more likely to commit rape; a woman serving in uniform has a higher likelihood of being assaulted by a fellow soldier than to be killed by enemy fire.

In For the Love of Men, Liz offers a smart, insightful, and deeply-researched guide for what we're all going to do about toxic masculinity. For both women looking to guide the men in their lives and men who want to do better and just don't know how, For the Love of Men will lead the conversation on men's issues in a society where so much is changing, but gender roles have remained strangely stagnant.

What are we going to do about men? Liz Plank has the answer. And it has the possibility to change the world for men and women alike.

An exploration of manhood and what it takes to be a good man in a world of toxic masculinity, from trans author Shannon Kearns.

No one ever taught Shannon Kearns how to be a man. As a trans man, Shannon was presumed female at birth and constructed his relationship with masculinity after his transition, using bits and pieces he gathered from the world around him: male behavior, pop culture portrayals, and cultural expectations for men that seemed to be in the air he breathed. But rather than separating him from the experiences of cisgender men, Kearns's self-taught approach to masculinity connected him with other men in surprising ways. As he lived more and more in the world of men, he discovered that cis men's relationship to masculinity was similar to his. No one taught them how to be a man either. They worried they were doing it wrong. And they were almost universally worried about being found out, exposed as not being a real man.

In No One Taught Me How to Be a Man, Kearns takes masculinity head-on. He uses his experience to see gender in ways cis men cannot, making masculinity visible. Without arguing that masculinity should be done away with, or that there is no real difference between men and women, he bravely points toward a form of manhood built for the well-being of the world, and for people of all genders.

Becoming a Barbarian is a follow-up to Donovan's cult hit, The Way of Men. Good, modern, civilized Western men today are expected to think like citizens of the world - obligated to everyone and no one. Natural, meaningful tribal connections have been substituted with synthetic, disposable consumer identities. Without a sense of who they are and what group they have a place in, modern men are becoming increasingly detached, disoriented, vulnerable, and ever more easily manipulated. Becoming a Barbarian attacks the emasculated emptiness of life in the modern West - The Empire of Nothing -and shows men how to think tribally again. It reveals the weaknesses of universalistic thinking, and challenges readers to become the kind of men who could go all-in and devote their lives to one group of people above all others. Becoming a Barbarian is about finding a tribe, finding a purpose, and choosing to live the kind of life that undermines the narrative of the Empire.

Direct and brutally honest, Rafa Conde debunks the myth of toxic masculinity, redefining what it is to be a 21st Century Man.

Men have lost their warrior spirit and have become soft. They have abdicated their roles and failed to lead themselves, their families and businesses. Conde is on a life mission to change this paradigm. He makes a compelling case for the modern revival of the ancient warrior codes.

This book explores the strategies and philosophies of ancient warrior cultures and their commanders. Throughout history, leaders like Marcus Aurelius, King David and King Leonidas exhibited manly courage. Their ability to influence others and to embody the warrior spirit was unquestionable.

Spartans, Samurais and Knights lived by an exemplary code of conduct and exhibited fearlessness in combat. Zen and Stoicism played vital roles in forging mental toughness and courage. Today, the influence of these mindsets are seen in successful entrepreneurs, high achievers and champion athletes.

These long lost principles, states of mind and strategies have been consolidated into 25 FORGING DISCIPLINES with direct application in the modern world.

By embodying these disciplines in your life you will emerge a stronger leader, visionary, father and husband. Essentially a 21st Century Man.

The Way of Men is the book that cracked the code of masculinity.

Advertisers create the illusion that masculinity can be bought. States and institutions want men to believe that masculinity is the product of obedience. Some say that masculinity is a measure of how many women a man has conquered in bed. Some guys say that real men follow their own favorite sports team or do whatever men in their own group like to do. Priests and preachers insist that you can only be a real man if you follow their religion. Feminists claim either that masculinity doesn't exist or that if it does, it is toxic or outdated.

The Way of Men argues that masculinity is timeless and rooted in the primal nature of our species. For hundreds of thousands of years, men all around the world fought together in small and competing groups as they struggled to survive. What we recognize as masculinity in other men is directly related to the qualities that men in those groups always needed and demanded from each other - tactical virtues like Strength, Courage, Mastery, and Honor.

The Way of Men has become a foundational text in the modern men's movement - sometimes called the manosphere - because it shows that today's crisis of masculinity is actually rooted in a conflict between civilized life and primal existence that men have been wrestling with since the beginning of time.

Especially popular in military, law enforcement, and martial arts communities, The Way of Men has influenced men worldwide and has been published in French, German, Italian, Portuguese, Spanish, and Polish. The Way of Men appeals to men of all races and creeds because it shows men the common history they all share.

This 10th Anniversary hardcover edition of The Way of Men includes a new Afterword by the author as well as two essays that were part of early drafts of the book. No Man's Land is an in-depth refutation of feminist arguments against masculinity, and Violence is Golden addresses the inescapable role of violence in creating and maintaining human order.

Men today have the ability to read and be inspired by masculine myths and stories from all of the world's religions. We can see how they evolved from one to another. Still, so many men find themselves searching for some sense of what is sacred and want to connect to something eternal, something greater than themselves. The question is: with so many choices, so many traditions, so many gods and heroes - which ones?

In Fire in the Dark, author Jack Donovan - best known for his underground classic, The Way of Men - explores the common themes in these myths that are still relevant to the lives of men today. Beginning with the simple, primal metaphor of the campfire, Donovan identifies a tripartite system of masculine roles and shows how those roles have been repeated again and again throughout the history of myth and religion. It is the nature of men to create order from chaos, and when order has been created, it is the work of men to protect and perpetuate that order. These jobs have been idealized in world-ordering sky fathers and thundering warriors and fertility gods. Donovan has integrated these ideals into a natural religion for men that is not new, but actually draws from the very oldest ideas about what it means to be a man.

* A Real Simple Best Book of 2019: An essential read for parents and students. *

The New York Times bestselling author of Pledged is back with an unprecedented fly-on-the-wall look inside fraternity houses from current brothers' perspectives--and a fresh, riveting must-read about what it's like to be a college guy today.

Two real-life stories. One stunning twist. Meet Jake, a studious freshman weighing how far to go to find a brotherhood that will introduce him to lifelong friends and help conquer his social awkwardness; and Oliver, a hardworking chapter president trying to keep his misunderstood fraternity out of trouble despite multiple run-ins with the police.

Their year-in-the-life stories help explain why students are joining fraternities in record numbers despite scandalous headlines. To find out what it's like to be a fraternity brother in the twenty-first century, Robbins contacted hundreds of brothers whose chapters don't make headlines--and who suggested that many fraternities can be healthy safe spaces for men.

Fraternity is more than just a page-turning, character-driven read. It's a vital book about the transition from boyhood to manhood; it brilliantly weaves psychology, current events, neuroscience, and interviews to explore the state of masculinity today, and what that means for students and their parents. It's a different kind of story about college boys, a story in which they candidly discuss sex, friendship, social media, drinking, peer pressure, gender roles, and even porn. And it's a book about boys at a vulnerable age, living on their own for perhaps the first time. Boys who, in a climate that can stigmatize them merely for being male, don't necessarily want to navigate the complicated, coming-of-age journey to manhood alone.

Might is Right is a book of action and not belief. It is poetry, not a platform. Since the first edition in 1896, Might is Right has inspired those across a dynamic political and philosophical spectrum. The consistent core of the work is this: the individual is against everything but the self, and any means of proliferation of the self is the only good. Might is the power of the individual, and that is the only foundation of Right.

Published in 1896, Might is Right went through five editions during the lifetime of Ragnar Redbeard, who had just moved to America, escaping the law in Australia. Every one of these had a plethora of revisions and reversions, many subtly coloring the meaning of the text, others leaving literal gaps on the printed page where type was physically removed from the printing plates.

Now Might is Right: The Authoritative Edition not only reveals one authoritative text, but adds thousands of citations and notations to reveal a much greater story underneath the text. Every literary reference is cited, every name is given biographical sketch. Redbeard's voice is given echo in some of the contemporary and historical figures that his ideas of an amoral philosophical egoism are in accord with.

Featuring a new introduction by Peter H. Gilmore, High Priest of the Church of Satan.

It is no secret that men are in trouble today. From war to ecological collapse, most of the world's critical problems stem from a distorted masculinity out of control. Yet our culture rewards the very dysfunctions responsible for those problems. To Matthew Fox, our crucial task is to open our minds to a deeper understanding of the healthy masculine than we receive from our media, culture, and religions. To awaken what Fox calls the sacred masculine, he unearths ten metaphors, or archetypes, to inspire men to pursue their higher calling to reinvent the world.

Jewish masculinity as a diverse set of adaptive reactions to masculine hegemony and the political, religious, and social realities of American Jews throughout the twentieth century.

For twentieth-century Jewish immigrants and their children attempting to gain full access to American society, performative masculinity was a tool of acculturation. However, as scholar Miriam Eve Mora demonstrates, this performance is consistently challenged by American mainstream society that holds Jewish men outside of the American ideal of masculinity. Depicted as weak, effeminate, cowardly, gentle, bookish, or conflict-averse, Jewish men have been ascribed these qualities by outside forces, but some have also intentionally subscribed themselves to masculinities at odds with the American mainstream. Carrying a Big Schtick dissects notions of Jewish masculinity and its perception and practice in America in the twentieth century through the lenses of immigration and cultural history. Tracing Jewish masculinity through major themes and events including both World Wars, the Holocaust, American Zionism, Israeli statehood, and the Six-Day War, this work establishes that the struggle of this process can shed light on the changing dynamics in religious, social, and economic American Jewish life.

One of the headlines of the 2012 Presidential campaign was the demise of the white American male voter as a dominant force in the political landscape. On election night four years later, when Donald Trump was announced the winner, it became clear that the white American male voter is alive and well and angry as hell. Sociologist Michael Kimmel, one of the leading writers on men and masculinity in the world today, has spent hundreds of hours in the company of America's angry white men - from white supremacists to men's rights activists to young students. In Angry White Men, he presents a comprehensive diagnosis of their fears, anxieties, and rage.

Kimmel locates this increase in anger in the seismic economic, social and political shifts that have so transformed the American landscape. Downward mobility, increased racial and gender equality, and a tenacious clinging to an anachronistic ideology of masculinity has left many men feeling betrayed and bewildered. Raised to expect unparalleled social and economic privilege, white men are suffering today from what Kimmel calls aggrieved entitlement a sense that those benefits that white men believed were their due have been snatched away from them.

Angry White Men discusses, among others, the sons of small town America, scarred by underemployment and wage stagnation. When America's white men feel they've lived their lives the 'right' way - worked hard and stayed out of trouble - and still do not get economic rewards, then they have to blame somebody else. Even more terrifying is the phenomenon of angry young boys. School shootings in the United States are not just the work of misguided youth or troubled teens -- they're all committed by boys. These alienated young men are transformed into mass murderers by a sense that using violence against others is their right.

The election of Donald Trump proved that angry white men can still change the course of history. Here, Kimmel argues that they should walk openly and honorably alongside those they've spent so long trying to exclude, in order to be happier and healthier.

No more apologies for being a man! Best-selling social commentator Anthony Esolen draws on timeless wisdom to defend the masculine virtues of strength, drive, ambition, and determination in building and upholding civilization itself.

This is a book that should not have to be written. Its purpose is to return to men a sense of their worth as men and to give to boys the noble aim of manliness, an aim which is their due by right.

One of the most courageous and penetrating writers of our time, Anthony Esolen shows that men and women would both be happier if men came to a just appraisal of their worth. The manhood he praises does not boast or swagger, but it appreciates its powers. It is reluctant to hurt, but it does not cringe or cower.

The whole of civilization rests on the shoulders of men who have done work that most people would not do--and that the physically weaker sex could not have done. And though the masculine mystique is about more than physical force, the differences between the sexes--manifold and profound--are all related in some way to that one, the easiest difference to see and the hardest to deny.

The feminist who mindlessly asserts that a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle takes her comfortable world--including the bicycle--for granted. And she betrays her lovelessness and ingratitude. Worse, she poisons the minds and hearts of boys with her talk of toxic masculinity.

No Apologies, with its compelling vision of a strong and effective manhood, reminds men that they have powers as men, and that those powers must be used for the common good, for everyone--men, women, and children all.

How does the sudden onset of disability impact the sense of self in a person whose identity was, at least in part, predicated on the possession of what is culturally understood to be an able body? How does this experience make visible the structures enabling society's shared notions of heteronormative masculinity?

In the United States, the Second World War functioned as a key moment in the emergence of modern understandings of disability, demonstrating that an increased concern with disability in the postwar period would ultimately lead to greater incoherence in the definitions and cultural meanings of disability in America. The Illegible Man examines depictions of disability in American film and literature in twentieth-century postwar contexts, beginning with the first World War and continuing through America's war in Vietnam. Will Kanyusik searches for the origin of discourse surrounding disability and masculinity after the Second World War, examining both literature and film--both fiction and documentary--their depictions of disability and masculinity, and how many of these texts were created by the relationship between the culture industry and the Office of War Information in the 1940s.

Supported by original archival research, The Illegible Man presents a new understanding of disability, masculinity, and war in American culture.

Knights Without Armor: A Guide to The Inner Lives of Men By Aaron R. Kipnis, Ph.D. A powerful volume and helpful guide - Publishers Weekly Thoughtful and provocative - San Francisco Chronicle Kipnis' elegant portraits of men offer poignant support for his claims - Los Angeles Times A fresh vision that points the way for a new male psychology (from foreword by Robert A. Johnson) From the publisher: This completely revised and new edition offers any reader real insights into the often-private thoughts of men. It represents many years of practice, research and consulting devoted to educating parents, teachers and counselors about key aspects of male psychology that are often poorly understood in treatment and education. For women who want to better understand their relationships with men and for men who want to hear some straight talk from men who are courageously revisioning their lives, this book will be quite helpful. Dr Aaron Kipnis is a psychologist and full time professor in Santa Barbara, CA. He is the author of Angry Young Men, What Women and Men Really Want, and many other works about the inner lives of men and boys. For more information, online articles, vitae and press kit please visit: www.malepsych.com or his academic site www.online.pacfica.edu/kipnis

«El machismo es la idealización de la violencia como medio, como fin, como instrumento educativo coercitivo; es una trampa que normaliza lo inaceptable.

Con estas palabras Lydia Cacho define el punto de partida de este libro imprescindible. #EllosHablan son testimonios de diversos hombres que hablan de su infancia y ponen en evidencia la violencia que vivieron en su entorno. Ellos nos dejan ver cómo en el ambiente hogareño y hostil, los niños normalizan aquello que más tarde detonará en relaciones verticales, violentas y discriminatorias que avalan un sistema de impunidad y paternalismo salvaje.

Lydia Cacho va a contracorriente de nuevo; acompaña a los hombres a mirarse al espejo en busca de un diálogo abierto para entender los orígenes de la violencia. La autora nos invita a pensar desde otro lugar para desmenuzar esto que llamamos #el hombre normal#. Una investigación que busca replantear el liderazgo masculino; cuestionar la sumisión ante la violencia a fin de que niños y jóvenes tengan nuevos asideros para construir su identidad sin atavismos.

«El machismo es como una prisión bajo tierra. Un lugar rabioso, sobrepoblado y solitario a la vez. En ese sitio, todo se trata de romper a otros o que te rompan. Y uno descubre que está allá abajo un día, que está desde niño. Y entonces, a veces, uno decide escalar, rasparse, golpearse, arañarse y alejarse todo lo posible. Porque si hay una mejor vida que esa, seguro que está en otro lado. - Antonio Ortuño, escritor

Una mujer valiente e inteligente que sí sabe de qué habla. -Arturo Pérez-Reverte

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Male chauvinism is the idealization of violence... a trap that normalizes the unacceptable.

This is how Lydia Cacho defines the starting point in this must-read book. #MenSpeak are the testimonies of several men regarding their upbringing, showcasing the violence they experienced in their own environment. These testimonies let us know how in such a homely and hostile environment, children normalize that which will later detonate vertical, violent, and discriminatory relationships, supporting a system of impunity and savage paternalism. Lydia Cacho invites us to think from a different standpoint, to unravel what we call the normal man. An investigation that wants to reframe masculine leadership and question submission in the face of violence so that children and young people get a new hold to build their identity without atavisms.

Male chauvinism is like an underground prison. A rabid, over-crowded, lonely place. Here everything is about breaking others or getting broken. And one day you discover that you are down there, that you have been there since childhood. And then, sometimes, you decide to climb the wall, get scraped, beaten, scratched, and as far away as possible. Because if there is a better life than this, it is surely somewhere else. --Antonio Ortuño, writer