The 7 Pillars workbook is a 10 month, weekly study designed to bring healing and freedom from unwanted and destructive sexual behaviors. The instructions and exercises in the 7 pillars workbook create a structure for freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors and provide the biblical truth necessary to build a healthy foundation. The 7 Pillars workbook address:

• Breaking denial structures
• Understanding the nature of sex addiction
• Understanding the healing process
• Establishing sobriety
• Establishing a relapse prevention plan
• Creating a spiritual growth plan for continued freedom

This workbook is designed to be done in a safe group setting along with the use of a 7 Pillars Journal.

Designed for group use, the Betrayal & Beyond Workbook reveals the truth and nature of sexual addiction, and how women are wounded by the addict's behaviors. For women who have suffered betrayal, their healing comes from understanding the role of trauma, establishing healthy boundaries, exploring the depth of forgiveness, and learning to live in restoration. Exercises in this workbook help the participant process trauma.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Chapter One - What just happened to me?

Chapter Two - Why do I feel and behave the way I do?

Chapter Three - What does my healing journey look like?

Chapter Four - How do I keep my self sane while he works his recovery?

Chapter Five - Why does he do this? Understanding the nature of compulsive sexual behaviors.

Chapter Six - What is the role of full disclosure, Intensives and counseling?

Chapter Seven - What if he doesn't choose recovery or I can't move forward?

Chapter Eight - What is forgiveness and reconciliation? When will I be able to trust again?

Chapter Nine - God's promise of redemption is for me. Vision for the future.

Who do you turn to when you've been betrayed by the person you trusted most in the world? How do you recover from the trauma of intimate betrayal-or the guilt, anger, and shame that come from being the partner who has betrayed someone they love? The Trust Solution offers a clear, six-step process that helps individuals and couples heal the pain, restore trust, and build a renewed relationship with greater security and intimacy. Filled with moving and relatable stories of couples who have struggled to heal the rupture in their relationships, The Trust Solution provides must-have tools that will not only help couples manage the day-to-day process of rebuilding trust but also help them achieve the long-term vision of a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.

A Partner's Guide to Truth and Healing

A Healing Journey for Betrayed Partners

John Sternfels, LPC, NCC, CCPS, CSAT, CMAT, C-SASI

When infidelity occurs, betrayed partners enter into a state of emotional distress. In a flash, their world is suddenly turned upside down. With no help in sight, no one to turn to, and no one to help, they find themselves alone, shocked, angry, and scared. Their world becomes filled with hypervigilance, avoidance behaviors, flashbacks, sleep disturbances, mood and health problems, rumination thoughts, etc. Contained within the pages of this book, John Sternfels provides a pathway to truth and healing. Partners will gain a clearer understanding of what has happened and what is needed to heal. Regardless of where you are in the journey, betrayal is a season in a partner's life but must not become a destination or a permanent identity.

Hundreds of books have been written to help sex and porn addicts get started with overcoming unwanted sexual behaviors. Though these resources can be helpful, generations of addicts have struggled to find the missing piece: a practical guide on how to maintain long-term sobriety. Advanced Recovery is that missing piece. Dr. Mark Denison has drawn from his years of extensive research to provide 12 simple keys to finding sobriety-and keeping it. In Advanced Recovery, you will learn how to unlock the door to the life you have always wanted. Each chapter is filled with helpful research and specific steps that will help you secure recovery for the rest of your life. The closing section of this book includes personal stories told by over 30 recovering addicts who are maintaining long-term recovery using the strategies taught in Advanced Recovery.

Today's pornography stimulates the brain like other addictive drugs and is hooking a generation. No one is immune-men, women, young, or old-to the destructive power of porn. It is waging war against a walk with Christ, a godly marriage (or future marriage), and is sidelining God's people from Kingdom service.

This book shows a path to true, lasting freedom with a biblical, clinical, and gospel-centered approach to recovery. You will learn the six roots of porn addiction and how to effectively address them. Before God's truth sets us free, it changes us. And because it changes us, the freedom lasts. Whether you need to quit porn yourself or you want to be equipped to help others, this book is for you. What if addressing a great threat to the Church is also a great opportunity for revival and growth? We are seeing it happen, and if you apply the principles in this book, you can see it happen, too.

In The Freedom Fight, you will learn ...

• why a tsunami of addiction is coming and what we can do about it.
• the brutal impact of pornography on marriages, spiritual lives and churches.
• how to stop watching porn for good.
• how porn impacts the brain and how to renew your mind.
• why quitting porn is so hard and the keys to make it happen.
• the six roots of a porn addiction and how to effectively address each one.
• a tool to help you resist temptation and build new brain pathways.

You've discovered that your spouse has sexually betrayed you. It feels like a searing knife has pierced your soul and you struggle to catch your breath. Your mind is spinning and you're in a fog. One thing stands clear - your life as you've known it is over. What do you do now?

You need a knowledgeable and experienced guide to help you navigate these tumultuous waters. Beth Denison is equipped to be that guide and she has provided this workbook to help you find your way. Beth combines sound recovery principles, spiritual insights, and practical tools.

The 12-Week Partner Recovery Guide includes lessons for:

• Recognizing Trauma
• Developing a Safety Plan
• Managing Triggers
• Processing Emotions
• Setting Healthy Boundaries
• Clarifying Forgiveness

When we first entered the recovery journey, it was all about gaining and maintaining sobriety. We learned how our past pain and trauma contributed to our acting out behaviors. We discovered how our addictive behaviors had created chaos in our brain, and were given the tools we needed to renew our mind and find our identity wholly in Christ. We created healthy strategies to cope with and navigate the stresses of life. We've come a long way.And now, we stand on the cusp of our next-level healing journey. Our journey to become a Compassionate Warrior.

This 20-session group experience is intended to take men deeper in their healing: deeper in relationship with God, with the people they love, with their family and friends, and even with themselves. This journey is holistic. It will address aspects of what we need to be healthy in several areas of their lives: physically, emotionally, relationally, sexually, and spiritually.

This journey is not only about gaining sobriety and maintaining recovery; it now includes learning how to serve others. It's about being other-oriented. Throughout the Workbook and Weekly Tools, the focus is more on relationships and God's plan and purpose for their lives. It is about becoming the man God created them to be-becoming a Compassionate Warrior.

The Workbook includes the weekly lessons and is meant to be used with the Weekly Tools Workbook which includes the FASTER Scale, Commitment to Change, Group Check In, and other tools to help men develop emotional and relational health.

The Compassionate Warrior is for men who have gone through Seven Pillars of Freedom or Living Free and are ready to take their healing to the next level.

You've gained and maintained sobriety from pornography and compulsive sexual behaviors for several years and, seemingly, out of nowhere, you relapse.

This 20-lesson group experience will take you deeper on your recovery journey! It will give you new tools and strategies to live out God's plan and purpose in your life and develop emotional and relational health.

The Compassionate Warrior will help you learn how to be more emotionally aware, feel connected to those around you, and develop healthy relationships. Together, the Workbook and Weekly Tools will catapult your healing to the next level, equipping you with a maturity and sensitivity toward others Transforming you into a Compassionate Warrior.

DESCRIPTION: I grew up in the Southern Baptist church of the 90's during the height of the True Love Waits movement, accompanied by Joshua Harris' bestseller, I Kissed Dating Goodbye. If you don't know what I am referring to, consider yourself blessed. Many of the ideas perpetuated by this culture were infused with fear and shame, offering no practical help or guidance in equipping young people to become healthy sexual human beings. As I approached adulthood, I became accustomed to feeling shame around my sexuality; trying to white-knuckle purity and falling short over and over again. This left me feeling full of self-hatred and hopelessness. I hope for this book to serve as the guide I wish I'd had, providing comfort and clarity to those who find themselves in a similar struggle for sexual health. I have written these essays not only for men but also for women who want to understand what healthy sexuality can look like in a partner. May this book be life-giving to your sexual healing. May courage accompany you as you engage with these essays of spirituality, sexuality, & restoration.ENDORSEMENTS: Most of us have some sense as to what God says about sex. Few of us have a sense of what sex says about God. In The Sexually Healthy Man, Andrew Bauman shows men how sexuality can be a window into understanding God more deeply; as well as understanding the glory and strength of our own masculine soul. With a rare blend of disarming vulnerability and trauma-informed clinical wisdom, Andrew lovingly helps readers understand the real nature of sexual brokenness. Best of all, he sets men on a proven path to living wholehearted and free in a way that will make us all think differently about sex, spirituality, and restoration. - Michael John Cusick, CEO at Restoring the Soul, Inc. Author of Surfing for God The Sexually Healthy Man arises out of the immense courage of therapist, Andrew Bauman. The title may seem like an oxymoron to any man paying attention to a newsfeed or a mirror. It's tempting to see the debris of sexual harm around us and within us and respond with despair or minimization. Andrew invites us to an alternative path that is both unflinchingly honest and hope restoring. This is a generous book, full of stories and wisdom. The Sexually Healthy Man can guide you to personal healing and, in the process, it might also enliven you to be a participant in the seismic cultural change needed in our world today.- Jay Stringer, M.Div, MA Author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing As a young therapist, I devoured Irvin Yalom's The Gift of Therapy - winsome and wise letters to his therapists and patients nudging them along in a journey of healing. Like Yalom's short letters, Andrew's essays are deep but accessible, courageous, and compassionate, offered out of the experience of a seasoned therapist. They're engaging invitations to heal our systems and ourselves by addressing our stories, our bodies, and our fears of sex and sexuality. What a gift -Chuck DeGroat, PH.D.Professor & Author As a blogger who often has to pick up the pieces from women betrayed by the men they loved, this book made me hope again What would the world look like if men would humble themselves, be honest, and reclaim health and wholeness? Let Andrew Bauman lead you on the messy road toward healthy sexuality--and real intimacy between the sexes. -Sheila Wray Gregoire, ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com, Author of The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

NOTE: This Workbook is Volume 2 of a comprehensive disclosure preparation guide for the disclosing individual. If you would like to purchase the complete comprehensive guide to preparing for a Full Disclosure, you can find it here: https: //www.amazon.com/dp/1095277669.Are you preparing for a full disclosure after sexual betrayal? Are you stuck in knowing what to share, how much to share, and how to not traumatize your partner with too many gory details in this full disclosure? If you are looking for tools to better prepare for a full disclosure after sexual betrayal, this workbook breaks down the disclosure-writing process into a comprehensive partner-sensitive 10-step approach. As you follow this guide you will learn to prepare a disclosure document to prepare to your partner after sexual betrayal. This workbook demystifies the disclosure-writing process to better help you prepare for a full disclosure.

About the Author of Overcoming Betrayal:

Rebecca Rosenblat, Registered Psychotherapist, Life Coach, Certified Sex Addiction & Trauma Counselor, and Sex Therapist, is a critically acclaimed relationship & sexuality expert. Rebecca has reached millions as the host of TV and radio shows and as the author of seven books and hundreds of advice columns and articles. She's also a clinical associate and private practitioner helping individuals and couples to heal and grow.

When a betrayal rocks a relationship - be it due to an affair or sex addiction - the couple needs to work together to get through it. But feeling hurt, upset, and afraid dissuades both parties from being exposed and vulnerable to each other - the very ingredients that are critical to healing. This book is intended to bring both parties together, by understanding each other's mindset, feeling each other's pain, and finding the answers that couples look for when their world has been blown apart.

- Rebecca Rosenblat, psychotherapist, relationship-sexuality therapist, best-selling author and TV host.

I appreciated Rebecca's openness to discuss infidelity from both perspectives. I believe she's the first to walk through the process holding both realities together, while doing an amazing job informing couples of issues to address, as well as giving them a roadmap to address these issues. Anyone who has experienced infidelity would do well to read Overcoming Betrayal.

Dr. Douglas Weiss, President of the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT)

With Overcoming Betrayal, Rebecca provides a look at infidelity in a committed relationship, examining both sides with intelligence and compassion... a recipe for healing and rebuilding relationship trust.

Robert Weiss, Author of Sex Addiction 101.

Rebecca captures the true essence of infidelity from both sides. She unfolds the personal stories of pain, sadness, grief, healing-rebuilding. This book is a gift to all couples working through infidelity.

Debbie Allen, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist

... a bridge of peace and hope. An intelligent read for therapists and a must-read for couples who find themselves in this situation.

- Mark Laing, Psychotherapist

... opened up my world to becoming a better person... My partner now has a book that answers her questions.

- WS, In recovery

How do I create authentic change?

How can I have more peaceful relationships?

How do I achieve holistic health?

All three of these questions require a journey into the body, where you learn how to listen to, reconnect with, and care for the body. With Somawise, embark on a transformational journey that unlocks the secrets of holistic health, authentic change, and peaceful relationships.

Somawise presents a groundbreaking approach that invites you to delve deep into the realms of your unique body. Through intuitive listening, profound reconnection, and compassionate self-care, you'll harness the power of your body as an invaluable compass for navigating life's complex landscapes. In a world saturated with quick fixes and superficial solutions, the key to lasting change lies within our own bodies.

Discover the untapped wisdom within your body, as it becomes your expert, guide, and guru. You'll learn how to feel the subtle internal signals and cues that reveal whether your choices nurture or hinder your natural state of health, presence, and vitality.

When we stay connected to our body, we learn to differentiate between our baggage and someone else's experience. We learn how to show up and listen to others without the intrusion of our own emotional states being projected onto the other. And when we give that space for the other to be Self, we bring a sense of harmony into the relationship.

Start your journey back to yourself with the teachings, techniques, and strategies provided by Somawise. Discover the extraordinary potential that awaits within.

No Longer a Slave is a poignant tale that explores the raw realities of addiction. These pages offer solace and inspiration to those who would dare to confront their own demons and embark on the journey towards healing and freedom. In this gripping memoir, Pastor Hadley Baker delves deeply into the heart-wrenching world of addiction. Don't let his church title fool you-his story is messy. As someone who was helplessly enslaved to pornography for more than two decades, this compelling narrative exposes the horrors of addiction while also providing a pathway to recovery and renewal. Drawing upon his own experiences, Hadley confronts the stigmas and misconceptions surrounding this issue, offering a compassionate perspective that will empower those struggling and their loved ones. Filled with unwavering honesty, insightful wisdom, and humorous storytelling, No Longer a Slave is an indispensable companion for anyone touched by addiction.

Being a believer doesn't disqualify us from sexual temptation and we would be naïve to think that sexual immorality isn't running rampant inside our church families. It's a sin that is swept under the rug and hardly ever talked about. If you have grown tired of the struggle, tired of repeatedly falling for the same trap, tired of the guilt and shame, tired of the bondage to sin, tired of being consumed by sensual thoughts, tired of the pressure it puts on your marriage or the pressure it puts on your ability to find a wife, come discover that there is a way out. I was stuck in sexual addiction and shame. But God's abundant grace freed me. Chains may become too heavy to carry, but they are never too heavy to be broken. Jesus is the Breaker of chains, and He never refuses to break the chains of those who ask Him.

I find then a law, that when I would do good, evil is present with me. Romans 7:21

For nearly 500 years Indwelling Sin in Believers has aided countless saints in recognizing the reality of the ongoing struggle with sin and resting in the all-powerful grace of Jesus Christ.

In this Puritan Reformed classic, John Owen uncovers the true and deep nature of sin in the life of a believer. A methodical and clear teacher, Owen systematically reveals how sin works to deceive and ultimate disable those who don't fully trust in God's amazing grace.

Clean of Heart: Overcoming Habitual Sins Against Purity is written for practicing Catholics who accept all the teachings of the Church, yet are still ensnared by pornography and self-abuse. There is hope Through the Sacraments, God provides all the grace one needs to become pure. No matter how long one has indulged in pornography or how deep one has sunk into the mire of vice, Our Lord can still break the addiction What makes Clean of Heart different? First, it is written from a Catholic point-of-view. While Evangelical Christians have many books and programs for pornography addicts, there are relatively few titles on the market for Catholics. Clean of Heart consists of fifty-one daily meditations which draw from the power of the Sacraments and the wisdom of the Saints (elements lacking in many Evangelical books). Second, Clean of Heart is a surprisingly chaste book. It contains no obscenities or explicit testimonies which may be an occasion of sin for some. The focus is on attaining a clean heart rather than recalling past sins. If you are tired of confessing the same sins over and over again and fed up with with how vice is affecting your life, then Clean of Heart is for you.

A call from an unidentified woman shatters Meg Graham's life. Already traumatized by a previous betrayal, this caller's assertion settles it-Meg is filing for divorce. Husband, Art, stands to lose everything-Meg, their sons, friends, his job. Unfathomably, Art is confused. He loves his wife deeply, yet he is unable to stop his infidelity. How can he ever make this situation right? Guided by those who had travelled this path before them, both Meg and Art find competent counsellors and 12-step groups. Slowly, they begin to work through issues, past and present, and discover new realities for their lives. Is divorce the only solution, or can they create a new future together that is positive and fulfilling?

Join Art as he acknowledges his sexual addiction, faces the consequences, explores its foundations, and embraces recovery. Walk alongside Meg as she questions her perceptions and probes her complex and conflicted emotions. Journey with the Grahams through the complicated realities of intimate partner betrayal and the processes that bring understanding, forgiveness, and recovery to a seemingly hopeless situation.

Navigating the complicated and confusing aftermath of repeated infidelities is overwhelming for both the remorseful spouse and the betrayed partner. Beyond PISD: Book Therapy for Couples in Recovery is a highly readable novel, written explicitly as a bibliotherapy resource for individuals and couples who are recovering from sexual addiction and intimate partner betrayal. As couples reflect on Art and Meg Graham's story, ideally with the support of a certified therapist, their own experiences are validated, they gain insight into the complex trauma created by infidelity, and they discover that healing is possible. Beyond PISD offers readers self awareness, compassion, and, perhaps above all else, hope.

Healing From Abuse is a compassionate and empowering guide for individuals who have experienced various forms of abuse and are seeking to reclaim their sense of self-worth and dignity. Through profound insights and practical strategies, this book offers a path towards healing from physical abuse, childhood trauma, sexual assault, and the emotional scars of being treated as inferior, outcast, or a pariah by those closest to you.

Drawing upon a combination of psychological expertise, personal narratives, and healing techniques, Healing From Abuse provides a roadmap for survivors to navigate the complex journey of recovery. It acknowledges the depth of pain and trauma inflicted by abuse while offering hope and encouragement for a brighter future.

Readers will discover:

• Strategies for coping with the emotional aftermath of abuse and reclaiming personal agency.
• Techniques for rebuilding self-esteem, self-compassion, and a positive sense of identity.
• Insightful reflections on the dynamics of abuse and its impact on relationships and personal well-being.
• Guidance on setting boundaries, asserting needs, and cultivating healthy connections.
• Inspirational stories of resilience and transformation from survivors who have embarked on their healing journey.

Healing From Abuse is not just a book; it's a beacon of light for those who have endured the darkness of abuse. It serves as a reminder that healing is possible and that every individual deserves to live a life free from the shackles of past trauma. Through its pages, readers will find solace, validation, and the courage to embark on their path toward healing and wholeness.