A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity -- but not necessarily the wisest one. -- LA Review of Books

From iconic couples' therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it.

An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo--universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat--even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book.

For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage--with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart.

Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships--what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations.

Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.

In this insightful book, celebrated research psychologist and couples counselor John Gottman plumbs the mysteries of love and shares the results of his famous Love Lab Where does love come from? Why does some love last, and why does some fade? And how can we keep it alive? Based on laboratory findings, this book shows readers how to identify signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate a fraying relationship and provides strategies for repairing what may seem lost or broken.

Romantic commitment is the most consequential investment a man can make. It affects every facet of our lives-from how much money we make, to how long and how happily we live.

And the women to whom we offer our commitment are the recipients of our greatest gift.

Why, then, do so many of us devote ourselves to women who drive us crazy, or even ruin our lives?

And why do we repeat malfunctioning relationship patterns that damage our happiness, our health, and our productivity?

At a time when cynicism toward romance is at an all-time high, Gatekeeper offers a counterintuitive message of hope for men: raise your standards. Transcend the history and habits that foster unworkable commitments.

A better life is never free. It takes work. But maybe it's time to expect more from ourselves, from our relationships, and from the women in our lives.

Gatekeeper is the roadmap for any man starting out, starting over, or simply looking to improve his relationships with women. If commitment is our greatest investment, then our relationships should be among our most powerful assets.

Entertaining, informative, thought-provoking, mysterious, poetic. Men who read it will surely learn much about themselves, and women--particularly those who are unfortunately misled into thinking of men as the enemy--will find it a real eye-opener.--Ruth Tiffany Barnhouse, M.D., Th.M., Harvard University

Robert A. Johnson's classic work exploring the differences between man and woman, female and male--newly reissued.

What does it really mean to be a man? What are some of the landmarks along the road to mature masculinity? And what of the feminine components of a man's personality?

Women have developed, over the centuries, considerable expertise in the technique of adapting to men, and for good reason, but that is not the same as truly understanding them. The transition from male childhood to real manhood is a complicated struggle, and explored in this book.

As timely today as when it was first published, He provides a fascinating look into male identity and how female dynamics influence men.

Robert A. Johnson's groundbreaking, brilliant, and insightful work on how women transition into being mature and developing their own identity--newly reissued.

What does it mean to be a woman? What is the pathway to mature femininity? And what of the masculine components of a woman's personality?

Many scholars and writers have long considered that the ancient myth of Amor and Psyche is really the story of a woman's task of becoming whole, complete, and individuated. Here, examining this ancient story in depth and lighting up the details, Robert A. Johnson has produced an arresting and perceptive exploration of what it means to become a woman. You will not read these pages without understanding the important women in your life and a good deal about yourself as a woman.

More important than ever before, She offers a compelling study of women.

Updated to reflect the very latest scientific research on human mating, this definitive edition of this classic work of evolutionary psychology explains the powerful forces that shape our most intimate desires.

20% of Men Get 80% of Women. (Source: Medium Data Science)

If you want to be a man that 80% of women desire, this book is your key. Based on over 120 scientific studies, this book is the ultimate guide to creating and maintaining attraction with women.

Attraction doesn't grow in a warm, safe environment, it grows in a swamp of discomfort and anxiety. This is just one of many truths you're about to discover.

In Atomic Attraction Christopher Canwell takes us on a journey through the dark waters of attraction. What turns women on? What makes them choose one man over another? And how can you become truly desirable and attractive?

This book answers these questions by combining the latest scientific research with real-life case studies to show you, the reader, how to ignite the fires of attraction and captivate those around you.

INSIDE YOU'LL DISCOVER

- How to get more sex, love, and affection

- How to increase your sexual market value

- How to use body language to attract women

- How to create instant attraction with women

- How to keep your girlfriend/wife interested in you

- How to maintain attraction in long-term relationships

- How to become the most attractive version of yourself

- How to build attraction online by text and social media

Everything you need to know about creating, building, and maintaining attraction with women can be found within these pages.

*This book includes 40 real-life case studies.

The scope of Discovering Human Sexuality ranges from homosexuality in ancient Greece to the recent Harvey Weinstein sexual harassment scandal, while covering a stunningly diverse array of topics. Questions considered include: How does the menstrual cycle work? What's splitting the bamboo? Can premature ejaculation be treated? If a man has undetectable levels of HIV, can he have sex without condoms? Which sex offenders will repeat their crimes? Is there a gay gene? What's wrong with polygamy? Why do some transgender youth desist? Is emergency contraception abortion? How do recent changes in Title IX regulations effect the rights of college students? This book gives factual answers to important questions and provides material for informed debate for issues without a single solution.

More than ever before, women everywhere are devouring the hottest stories from behind closed doors, tales of sexual encounters designed to create new frissons of excitement with each turn of the page. But the fantasies in this book aren't fiction. They are the real erotic imaginings of real women . . . and nothing is more exciting than that.

Nancy Friday, whose collections of women's sexual fantasies include My Secret Garden and Forbidden Flowers, offers up a smorgasbord of sensual scenarios (New Women) in this explicit New York Times bestseller that puts women in control of their sexual destinies. Nearly two hundred women contributed, in their own uncensored words and through interviews with the author, the shocking, daring, amusing, untamed, and pulse-pounding imaginings that turn them on the most. The fantasies are fascinating, raves Esquire magazine, no doubt because unlike anything any novel could ever truly capture, they allow open access to what women really desire.

The damned thing about severe depression is that it takes over your brain, body, and spirit. It wants you to say to yourself, There is nothing I can do to make myself feel better. I am helpless in the face of my problems. Even at this very moment your severe depression is whispering in your ear, This is all bulls@#t. Your depression has lived with you for a long time, and has seldom left your side. It's relentlessly pessimistic, and wants you to believe that your misery will never end. These are the lies your depression is wanting you believe.

With this unique guide, you'll learn why it's so important to take your severe depression seriously--just as you would if you had cancer, heart disease, diabetes, or any other life-threatening illness. In addition, by viewing your depression as a separate entity--The Beast--you'll discover how it tries to trick you when you are most stressed to do things that leave you feeling much more depressed.

You'll also learn how changing your behavior can actually change your brain chemistry. And, most importantly, you'll find actionable solutions to put The Beast in its place so you can start feeling better now

In order to overcome your depression, you must understand its nature. This book will help you understand The Beast, stop feeding it, and take back your life.

This book has been selected as an Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Book Recommendation--an honor bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.

Homosexuality. Is it learned, biological...or both?

The answer to this question deeply concerns parents. They want to know how they can
best raise their children. Many would have us believe that nothing can be done to foster the
development of healthy gender identity and heterosexual orientation in children. But the
clinical experience
of Dr. Nicolosi and others, along with a careful look at the professional
literature, indicates otherwise.
In this groundbreaking book, Joseph Nicolosi uncovers the most significant factors that
contribute to children's healthy sense of themselves as male or female. Listening to moving
recollections from ex-gay men and women who describe what was missing in their own
childhoods, Dr. Nicolosi provides clear insight for identifying potential developmental
roadblocks and gives practical advice to parents for helping their children securely
identify with their gender. Replete with personal stories from parents, children and ex-gay
strugglers, A Parent's Guide offers compassion and hope for all those parents who seek to
lay a foundation for a healthy heterosexual identity in their children.

Sexuality and the Psychology of Love is Freud at his most brilliant, raising the curtain on a new era of sexual and social awareness, with an introduction from Philip Rieff.

In this eye-opening book Thomas Moore, the author of the national bestsellers Care of the Soul and Soul Mates, turns to the dark side of love: its cruelties, perversions, and appalling tortures. Bravely and with brilliant insights, Moore re-imagines the repulsive fictions of the Marquis de Sade to learn what they can teach about the horrors hidden deep inside the human soul, revealing unsuspected poetic and imaginative powers within violence and sexual victimization. The book also shows the sadomasochism that lies unseen in many aspects of everyday life.

With a foreword by Adolf Guggenbühl-Craig and a new afterword by the author.

Based on seminal research with consensually non-monogamous (CNM) individuals, Dr. Marie Thouin elucidates this question of compersion from several lenses and introduces the first comprehensive and applicable model of compersion--an essential tool for scholars, therapists, and CNM individuals alike.

This book has been developed specifically for parents, partners, and the family members of a transgender loved one to validate their emotional experiences and the challenges they and their loved one will be facing. They will also require reliable information, access to educational resources, and the emotional support they will need to address and manage the challenges they will be presented with.

Why is this book important? This book is important because parents and family members will become unsuspecting participants in a transgender family member's journey of exploration and growth without warning, knowledge, or even the slightest understanding of what it means for an individual to be gender diverse or transgender.

That lack of knowledge, or any level of understanding, will present the parents, family, or partner with emotional distress, anxiety, duress, interpersonal conflicts, familial complexities, societal and cultural challenges they are ill-prepared to deal with. Chaos, fear, anger, hostility, volatility, and the rejection of the individual has typically been experienced.

Transgender Families, helping parents and families understanding gender diversity and being transgender, is an essential read for these families because: no one transitions alone.