Conflict is the top reason couples seek help--but it's also an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love according to this essential guide from the world's leading relationship scientists and authors of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and Eight Dates.

An indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again.--Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

How we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can't control and emotions we don't anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight--all the time. Conflict is human, and necessary.

Through decades of research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, founders of the world-famous Love Lab, have identified the five common mistakes we make when we are at odds. In Fight Right, we learn the five secrets that help us to get back on track and harness conflict to build stronger, healthier relationships. With kindness, clarity, and a deep understanding of the struggles couples are going through, the Gottmans show us that we each have a unique conflict culture, borne of how we were raised and how we experienced past relationships, and they take us through all the possible combinations, from Avoiders, to Validators, to Volatiles, and how they can best work together.

Fight Right is an essential resource that will help couples escape the win-or-lose mentality in favor of a collaborative approach: calming down, staying connected, and really understanding, so that our fights can bring us closer.

This book is so needed in a time when we are fresh off cancel culture and ready for a new way to process and interact with those with whom we don't agree--whether virtually or in real life.--Joy Cho, author and founder of Oh Joy!

Brit Barron gets it. Those people who hurt us with their bigotry and ignorance . . . they're often the people we love: They're our friends, our parents, our grandparents, and even our religious leaders. And what we want is for them to grow, not to be canceled by an online mob. So what can it look like to strive for justice without causing new harm or giving up on the people we love? Barron shows that the way forward is to create a gracious and risky space for people to learn and evolve. We need to form the sorts of relationships where we can tell difficult truths, set boundaries, forgive, and share stories of our own failings. And this starts with examining ourselves.

In Do You Still Talk to Grandma?, Barron draws readers into this tension between relationship and accountability, sharing painful experiences from her own life, such as her parents' divorce and belonging to a faith community that sided with the forces that dehumanize BIPOC and LGBTQ+ folks. Barron illuminates the challenges and hope for these relationships, showing that the best research points toward humility, self-awareness, an openness to learning, and remembering that others can learn too.

Barron envisions a redemptive way of being that allows progressives to love people who say or believe problematic things without sacrificing themselves, their values, or their beliefs. Provocative, charming, and vulnerable, Do You Still Talk to Grandma? is an essential read for anyone struggling to live compassionately without giving up on conviction.

Spend the next 8 weeks overcoming relationship obstacles and building a stronger connection

Every relationship has challenges, but learning to listen, communicate, and get in sync can help you move through the tough times quicker and spend more time enjoying each other. The 8 Week Couples Therapy Workbook is full of expert guidance and simple exercises that show you and your partner how to work through anything that comes up, so your relationship stays healthy, strong, and happy.

What's going on?--This therapy book includes straightforward explanations of how intimacy and interpersonal connections work, the ways they can break down, and how to get them back on track.

Advice that works--Find techniques from a licensed psychologist that are rooted in communication therapy, but simple to understand and implement in your daily lives.

An 8-week timeline--These activities are spread out over 8 weeks, so it's easy to find time for them in your busy schedules, and to get in the habit of using your new skills in the long-term.

Every aspect of life together--Focus on a different theme each week: communication, intimacy, conflict, money matters, social styles, relationship patterns, values, and love languages.

Pick up this relationship workbook for couples today and create a better future together!

Now in a revised and updated 6th edition, the groundbreaking, research-based approach to understanding and parenting children who frequently exhibit severe fits of temper and other challenging behaviors, from a distinguished clinician and pioneer in the field.

What's an explosive child? A child who responds to routine problems with extreme frustration--crying, screaming, swearing, kicking, hitting, biting, spitting, destroying property, and worse. A child whose frequent, severe outbursts leave his or her parents feeling frustrated, scared, worried, and desperate for help. Most of these parents have tried everything-reasoning, explaining, punishing, sticker charts, therapy, medication--but to no avail. They can't figure out why their child acts the way he or she does; they wonder why the strategies that work for other kids don't work for theirs; and they don't know what to do instead.

Dr. Ross Greene, a distinguished clinician and pioneer in the treatment of kids with social, emotional, and behavioral challenges, has worked with thousands of explosive children, and he has good news: these kids aren't attention-seeking, manipulative, or unmotivated, and their parents aren't passive, permissive pushovers. Rather, explosive kids are lacking some crucial skills in the domains of flexibility/adaptability, frustration tolerance, and problem solving, and they require a different approach to parenting.

Throughout this compassionate, insightful, and practical book, Dr. Greene provides a new conceptual framework for understanding their difficulties, based on research in the neurosciences. He explains why traditional parenting and treatment often don't work with these children, and he describes what to do instead. Instead of relying on rewarding and punishing, Dr. Greene's Collaborative Problem Solving model promotes working with explosive children to solve the problems that precipitate explosive episodes, and teaching these kids the skills they lack.

When Kristina Kuzmič started to see signs that her otherwise sunny, resilient teenage son was struggling, she was sure a few simple fixes could right the ship. But over the following months, the issues her family faced became more nuanced, complicated, and pervasive than she could've predicted--and what began as a clear to do list spiraled into an emotionally fraught and seemingly endless push and pull between signs of progress and overwhelming fear.

Despite her best efforts, Kuzmič had internalized a set of obligations, ideas, and unrealistic standards from parenting culture and social media that left her unprepared to guide her child when he needed her most. Featuring an urgent and affirming foreword by renowned and New York Times bestselling clinician Dr. Shefali Tsabary--Kuzmič's new book debunks ten parenting truths that kept her in crisis, and delves into her insecurities and the mistakes she made to reveal invaluable lessons and transformative approaches that worked.

While her family stands on the other side now stronger than ever, Kuzmič's journey calls to parents who have felt the instinct to say I can fix this in situations where good intentions far exceed our abilities to enact change.

Fourteen years since its first publication, the bestsellerNasty People has been revised and updated to cover the motivations of nasty people, how to avoid confrontation with a nasty boss, how to handle a nasty spouse, and much more, including:

• How to break the cycle of nastiness
• A new understanding of personality disorders and depression
• Narcissism, nasty behavior, and self-doubt
• Nasty people and self-validation
• The role adrenaline plays in nasty behavior and our responses to it.

Everyone knows a person who has been hurt, betrayed, or degraded by nasty individuals or has experienced it themselves. In three books, Jay Carter, Psy. D., shows readers how to stop this cycle of overt and covert abuse, without resorting to nasty tactics. Now for the first time, this series is released together to cover all areas of dealing with difficult people. With straight-talking advice, real-life anecdotes, and psychology that makes sense, Carter explains how to handle and stop painful behavior that harms both the perpetrator and the victim.

I said I was sorry! What more do you want?

Even in the best of relationships, we mess up. We say and do things we deeply regret later on. So we need to make things right. But just saying you're sorry isn't enough. That's only the first step on the road to restoration.

In The 5 Apology Languages, Gary Chapman, the #1 New York Times bestselling author of the 5 Love Languages(R), partners with Jennifer Thomas to help you on the journey toward restored relationships. True healing comes when you learn to:

• Express regret: I'm sorry.
• Accept responsibility: I was wrong.
• Make restitution: How can I make it right?
• Plan for change: I'll take steps to prevent a reoccurrence.
• Request forgiveness: Can you find it in your heart to . . . ?

Don't let hurts linger or wounds fester. Start on the path to healing today and discover how meaningful apologies can make your friendships, family, and marriage stronger than ever before.

Parenting changes a couple's relationship in fundamental ways, but most parents are too exhausted from the demands of life, work, and engaging their kids to prioritize their relationship. This can lead to repeated conflict and an overwhelming sense of anxiety, anger, hurt, and loneliness...just when you need your partner's support the most. The good news: conflict is actually a sign that you are trying to connect with your partner--you're just stuck in an old pattern of communication.

In Too Tired to Fight, Erin and Stephen Mitchell use their 20-plus years of counseling experience to walk couples through the 13 conflicts that are not just normal but necessary to keep a partnership strong once kids enter the picture, including:

• The Your Parenting Is Wrong Conflict
• The I'm More Tired Than You Conflict
• The Stop Choosing Your Family Over Ours Conflict
• The Sex Life? What Sex Life? Conflict

The go-to guide for dealing with the narcissist in your life--now fully revised and updated based on reader feedback

Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in deluded thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So, how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life? You might interact with them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one--so ignoring them isn't really a practical solution. They're frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them.

Now a self-help classic, Disarming the Narcissist is a practical, step-by-step communication guide to help you cope with and confront the narcissist in your life. Based on reader feedback, this fully revised and updated third edition features new information on shame, hypersexuality, and infidelity in narcissism; legal information to help you if you are divorcing a narcissist; and the impact of narcissism on children.

With this how-to guide, you'll learn how to separate yourself from a narcissist's traps, and gain the respect and validation you deserve--while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe. Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.

This clearly articulated statement offers a hopeful and workable approach to conflict--that eternally beleaguering human situation. John Paul Lederach is internationally recognized for his breakthrough thinking and action related to conflict on all levels--person-to-person, factions within communities, warring nations. He explores why conflict transformation is more appropriate than conflict resolution or management. But he refuses to be drawn into impractical idealism. Topics include:

• Defining Conflict Transformation
• Conflict and Change
• Connecting Resolution and Transformation
• Creating a Map of Conflict
• Developing Our Capacities
• And much more!

This title is part of The Little Books of Justice and Peacebuilding series.

An analysis of the nature, causes, and significance of violence in the second half of the twentieth century. Arendt also reexamines the relationship between war, politics, violence, and power. Incisive, deeply probing, written with clarity and grace, it provides an ideal framework for understanding the turbulence of our times(Nation). Index.

Covert narcissism is a more hidden and concealed form of narcissism, making it all the more difficult for the abuser to be confronted or 'outed' for their behavior.

Covert narcissism is a passive-aggressive, hostile and toxic form of abuse that makes victims feel hopeless, unheard, hurt and confused by the abusers behavior.

When you think of a narcissistic personality, it's likely you think of a loud, grandiose and 'look at me' type of character. A lot of people don't realize that there is a much stealthier, more introverted form of narcissism, and therefore covert narcissists can often get away with their toxic behavior without being found out.

I was in a relationship with a covert narcissist. I know the frustration, disappointment, anger and humiliation a covert narc can make you feel. I understand the helplessness you feel when you're in a relationship that has such an invisible toxicity that you think no one would believe you if you told them about it.

This book, driven by my desire to help and connect with other victims of narcissism, aims to give you the knowledge you need to stand up to covert narcissistic abuse. The chapters include:

- What is a covert narcissist? The six giveaway signs of a covert narcissist

- Can a covert narcissist love?

- Confusing conversations with a covert narcissist

- The effects covert narcissism has on you

- Setting boundaries and Interacting with a covert narcissist

- Looking after you - ways to leave a vulnerable narcissist

Based on scientific research, this groundbreaking study from the frontiers of psychology and medicine offers startling new insight into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. Through vivid examples (including his work with victims from both sides of Northern Ireland's civil war), Dr. Fred Luskin offers a proven nine-step forgiveness method that makes it possible to move beyond being a victim to a life of improved health and contentment.

Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language--I'm sorry--and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken connections and restoring trust.

Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies--and why some people won't give them--for more than two decades. Now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that bring home how much the simple apology matters and what is required for healing when the hurt we've inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Readers will learn how to craft a deeply meaningful I'm sorry and avoid apologies that only deepen the original injury.

Why Won't You Apologize? also addresses the compelling needs of the injured party--the one who has been hurt by someone who won't apologize, tell the truth, or feel remorse. Lerner explains what drives both the non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, as well as why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own up. She helps the injured person resist pressure to forgive too easily and challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With her trademark humor and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving guide to setting things right.

Making Peace with Fire prepares you to confidently navigate conflicts with family, friends, coworkers, neighbours, and other communities. Making peace with fire doesn't mean resigning yourself to costly conflicts - it means transforming them to lead to stronger relationships.

Making Peace with Fire will sharpen your leadership skills as you learn from proven principles, case studies, and practical tools. You can build - or save - the relationships that give your life meaning.

This book will help you to understand, appreciate, and deal with conflicts in positive ways. It gives proven practices for trusting another person, actively listening, and creatively engaging. To speak to the heart and bring transformation on a deeper level, this book also features stories relevant to African communities. As a result, individuals will be able to transform conflicts into opportunities for growth.

• Transform your conflicts into opportunities.
• Instead of fighting with each other, learn how to fight for your church, family, or community.
• Learn how to work through conflicts and make them work for you.

What if conflicts at home, at work, and in the world stem from the same root cause? What if we systematically misunderstand that cause? And what if, as a result, we unwittingly perpetuate the very problems we think we are trying to solve?

The Anatomy of Peace uses a fictional story of an Arab and a Jew--both of whom lost their fathers at the hands of the other's cousins--to powerfully show readers the way to transform conflict. We learn how they come together, how they help parents and children come together, and how we too can find our way out of the personal, professional, and social conflicts that weigh us down.

The fourth edition includes revisions and new materials and resources that increase its relevance and usefulness at a time of deeply entrenched divisions throughout society. Additionally, it includes new detailed discussions of the pattern of dehumanization that lies at the heart of today's most pressing struggles with prejudice and discrimination--challenges that cannot be solved until the origins of bias and discrimination are properly understood and addressed. The new edition is a unique and vital resource for combatting racism and prejudice in their many manifestations.

Our ancestors gathered around a fire in a circle, families gather around their kitchen tables in circles, and now we are gathering in circles as communities to solve problems. This peacemaking practice draws on the ancient Native American tradition of a talking piece and combines that with concepts of democracy and inclusivity.

Peacemaking circles are used in neighborhoods to provide support for those harmed by crime and to decide sentences for those who commit crime, in schools to create positive classroom climates and resolve behavior problems, in the workplace to deal with conflict, and in social services to develop more organic support systems for people struggling to get their lives together. The circle process hinges on storytelling. It is an effort bringing astonishing results around the country. Chapters include:

• Circles in Practice
• A Circle Story--Finding a Way to Move Forward after a Workers Strike
• Foundations of Circles
• A Circle Story--Finding Understanding in the Classroom
• Key Elements of Circles
• A Circle Story--Finding Healing from Violent Crime
• Organizing a Talking Circle
• A Circle Story--Finding Respect Across Generations
• Circles in Perspective
• A Circle Story--Finding Connection within Family