Is your child ready to launch into adulthood, or are they stuck on the runway?

Today, more young adults than ever are struggling to achieve independence. Over fifty percent of 18-29-year-olds are still living at home, and an alarming number leave home and cut ties with their parents. But what if there was a way to help your child become self-sufficient and independent while maintaining a strong, loving bond with you?

In this book, the author, a seasoned expert in the field, provides a comprehensive guide to achieving a successful launch. You'll learn the importance of practicing unconditional love to secure the relationship, even when fear, anxiety, guilt, or resentment threaten to block it. Through love and five other powerful practices-strengthening your relationship, apologizing, forgiving, showing backbone, and saying goodbye-you'll gain the tools and insights to support your child's journey to responsible independence.

Empower yourself with the knowledge to let go while sustaining a caring connection with your adult child. It's time to prepare for a launch that truly soars.

Launch Code is a beacon of wisdom and compassion for parents navigating the complexities of supporting grown-up children. With its reassuring tone and practical guidance, this book offers invaluable strategies for fostering open communication, setting healthy boundaries, and navigating the delicate balance between support and independence. Each chapter is packed with actionable advice and exercises, ensuring readers can apply the insights gained to their situations. With its blend of empathy and practicality, Launch Code is an indispensable companion for any parent seeking guidance and reassurance in supporting their adult children, offering a comforting hand through the ups and downs of this transformative journey.

Joshua Coleman, Ph.D. Author, Rules of Estrangement: Why Adult Children Cut Ties and How to Heal the Conflict

I have had the pleasure of following Jack Stoltzfus and his books on parenting over the years. Jack's latest book, the Parents Launch Code: Loving and Letting Go of Our Adult Children, addresses the precarious period when children prepare to launch into adulthood. His approach - the combination of unconditional love with backbone -- captures the meaning behind tough love, a phrase I used to describe what I learned in the '60s working with young people on the streets of Harlem. Love and backbone are the formula for the difficult and necessary balance between compassion and resolve that parenting with integrity requires. This is an essential book for parents whose children are entering adulthood.

Bill Milliken

Founder and Vice Chair, Communities in Schools

Author of Tough Love, The Last Drop Out, and From the Rearview Mirror

Like a kite, parents need to let out more string to allow the young adult to find their own path to responsible independence. Eventually, we must let go and allow them to define their future no longer tethered to the string we hold in our hand. It's a bittersweet time of liberation and celebration and sadness and loss knowing the family we created will never be the same. It's a critical juncture in the life of parents who now need to find a path to growth and fulfillment apart from their young adult. This book will help you let go and grow.
-- Jack Stoltzfus PhD, parentslettinggo.com
Jack is the master at understanding the challenges for today's parents. He provides practical understanding, realistic steps, and validation of the difficulties of making the parental decisions needed for the emotional health of both the parent and the adult child.
-- Dr. Cheryl Leitschuh, parent and author, Straight Talk for Smart Business Women: Critical Tools to Build and Grow Your Business.
Dr. Stoltzfus has captured the core of parenting in this practical and profound guide of later stage parenting's dual role; letting go of power over adult children, while holding tight to love them well. Simple truths, driven by research and many years of parental and career experience, permeate this book. How to worksheets will move you toward open, satisfying, and meaningful relationships with your adult children. Parents of adult children can greatly benefit from this easy to read book that offers hope and healing.
-- Dr. Penny Giesbrecht, parent and author of Where is God When a Child Suffers?
As a parent of three young adults, I found this book helpful first in that it helped me understand the challenges and complications that make this process so difficult. Second, the author provides insights as well as practical ideas of how to manage this letting go while maintaining a healthy relationship between you as a parent and your young adult.
-- A parent who attended a parents letting go workshop.

The goal of this book is to provide general principles and guidelines that parents can follow that speak to the need to be understanding, loving, forgiving, and compassionate while exhibiting backbone-the ability to say no. In most cases guidelines and principles are followed by applications and examples. Being a parent of a young adult is more challenging than at any other time in history, yet parents of young adults are often ignored with a view that their job is done, so education and resources are often in short supply. This book will help you learn why, how, and when to stand your ground and set limits that will enable your young adult to move toward responsible independence.

Love to Let Go is the second in a series of books describing the six practices parents need to undertake to effectively launch their young adult. It is about unconditional love. The first practice described in Can You Speak Millennial ese is about understanding your young adult. Both practices are foundational to being the best parent you can be in helping your young adult successfully move toward behavioral and emotional independence. Subsequent books will address the other four practices essential to launching one's young adult: apology, forgiveness, supportive integrity, and letting go.