'If your relationship is so bad, why don't you just leave them?'

'If you were in such an abusive relationship, why did you stay with them for so long?'

'If you knew you were in a relationship with such a toxic person, why didn't you ask people for help?'

If you've ever been asked these questions, aside from being ignorant and hurtful, you'll know it's beyond frustrating. The answer to the above questions, whilst it's complex and often confusing, can be given with two words: trauma bonded.

If you find you're in a relationship that you know is so toxic that it's crushing your very being, but you can't bring yourself to leave, you may be in the clutches of a tight trauma bond. If you're constantly feeling on edge, forever working to appease your spouse to little avail and like you're constantly being chipped away at with their abusive behavior, then I can understand how emotionally shattering it feels to live this way. If in the same breath, it breaks your heart to even consider leaving them because you can't imagine life without them, then I can understand that feeling too; because I was trauma bonded to my abusive ex.

From my own personal experience and from the experiences other survivors have opened up to me about, this book will cover the following:

- What trauma bonding really is

- The 7 stages that lead to you becoming trauma bonded

- The parallels that Stockholm syndrome has with trauma bonding

- The 5 stages you go through when you come to accept you're trauma bonded

- The cognitive dissonance a trauma bond can cause

- Breaking free from the traumatic bond

This book will also include my own experiences and I'll draw upon those to help you really understand trauma bonding, and let you know that you're not alone in being shackled by this emotionally crippling bond. More importantly, this book will help you understand that the invisible chain that tethers you to your abuser can be broken.

Narcissistic abuse is a form of abuse that ensures victims are left emotionally drained, mentally exhausted, and devoid of any self-worth or self-esteem. I was a victim of a malignant narcissist for seven years of my life, and I know just how crushing it is to live such an abusive and suppressed life. The helplessness and detachment from reality that comes with narcissistic abuse are enough to keep you in the tight grip of the abuser for as long as they choose.

However, I eventually found the courage to leave my abuser, but it didn't end there. As you may know, ending a relationship with a narcissist isn't that easy - even if it was the narc who did the breaking up. They don't just 'let you go' - they try to make sure you'll go through hell before you get one over on them.

In this book, I want to offer you some guidance on this rarely-talked about aspect of an abusive relationship: how to deal with a narcissist when they're your ex. The chapter list is as follows:

Why you shouldn't go back and why you need to move on

Why you need to go 'no contact' and ways you can do this

How to stop missing your abuser

Understanding and dealing with 'hoovering' after a break-up

Narcissistic stalking

How to deal with 'flying monkeys'

Survivor stories from two former narcissistic abuse victims

Throughout the book, I also offer some of my own story too, in the hopes that this offers you a sense of familiarity. You'll likely find that thing things I went through are very similar to your own experiences, and the purpose of this book is to get you to the point where I'm currently at: healed and thriving.

Do you have a gut feeling about your partner that you just can't shake? Or maybe you've spotted some red flag behavior from your other half, but you're not sure if it's just you 'being paranoid' or if it's warning behavior that needs to be addressed.

Either way, it's in your best interest to take heed of the way you're feeling and delve a little deeper into your primal instincts.

Are those 'jokey' digs or are they something more sinister? Are their lies something that can be brushed off or do you need to question their dishonesty? Does your date act differently in front of you compared to how they behave in front of other people? Do you fear their reaction to certain topics or conversations, and does this make you uneasy around them?

This book was written by a survivor of narcissistic abuse and aims to provide support and validation for others, to stop them from entering an abusive relationship. This book serves to stop an abuser in their tracks by showing you the red flags you ought to take notice of before they escalate their behavior.

This short book offers twenty red flags that shouldn't be ignored - no matter how invested in your spouse you may be.

Hurtful criticism. Nasty 'jokes'. Angry outbursts for seemingly no reason. Verbal attacks towards your innocent comments. Stone-cold silent treatment. Manipulative actions to ensure you don't know if you're coming or going. Sound familiar?

The phrase to summarize the above abhorrent treatment is narcissistic rage.

The words 'narcissistic' and 'rage' are bad enough by themselves. When you merge them together, it becomes a force to be reckoned with; a volatile tornado that can emotionally destroy anything that dares enter its path. The term is as frightening and daunting as it sounds, and enduring the full force of narcissistic rage is enough to mentally and emotionally defeat just about anyone who gets in the way.

This book will cover the following:

- What narcissistic rage is
- The types of narcissistic rage
- What causes this rage to erupt
- The silent treatment and how to handle it
- Gaslighting and temper tantrums

This book aims to give you a better understanding of narcissistic rage and the deadly silent treatments that comes alongside it. I endured an abusive, narcissistic relationship for a long time, and have used my experience to connect with other survivors to help them heal, too.

Splitting up with a narcissist is half the battle - the other half is the aftermath of the breakup.

My ex didn't take the split well (as most narcissists don't), and started a campaign of harassment and stalking against me. This book will give you a glimpse of the abuse I endured after the breakup and give you an overview of what it is about us that attracts a narcissist. I'll also give you some advice about staying safe and guarding yourself from your narcissistic ex and their fleet of flying monkeys.

Living in a state of fear, anxiety and dread isn't living at all - it's surviving in a world of misery. Your abusive ex stalks you because they want to retain a hold over you and frighten you into keeping them at the forefront of your mind. I know how hard it is to survive this tough time, but let me guide you to clarity, discuss narcissistic abuse with you and help you fight the fear of your stalker ex.

In this book, I'll discuss:

- The horrific treatment we endure at the hands of narcissists.

- The stalking behavior of a narc.

- Why do we attract toxic people?

- Why do I miss my abusive ex?

- Will they ever leave me alone?

- Swatting away the flying monkeys.

Take the red pill and read this book (which will tell you what the red pill is!)