A New York Times bestseller--with more than one million copies sold!
If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent's behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life.
In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents' emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you'll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life.
Discover the four types of difficult parents:
Now a New York Times bestseller!
If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent's behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life.
In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents' emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you'll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life.
Discover the four types of difficult parents:
-The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety
-The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone
-The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting
-The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory
In this sequel to the New York Times bestseller, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, author Lindsay Gibson offers powerful tools to help you step back and protect yourself at the first sign of an emotional takeover, make sure your emotions and needs are respected, and break free from the coercive control of emotionally immature parents.
Growing up with emotionally immature (EI) parents can leave you feeling lonely and neglected. You may have trouble setting limits and expressing your feelings. And you may even be more susceptible to other emotionally immature people as you establish adult relationships. In addition, as your parents become older, they may still treat your emotions with mockery and contempt, be dismissive and discounting of your reality, and try to control and diminish your sense of emotional autonomy and freedom of thought. In short, EIs can be self-absorbed, inconsistent, and contradictory. So, how can you recover from their toxic behavior?
Drawing on the success of her popular self-help book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, author Lindsay Gibson offers yet another essential resource. With this follow-up guide, you'll learn practical skills to help you recognize the signs of an EI, protect yourself against an emotional takeover, reconnect with your own emotions and needs, and gain emotional autonomy in all your relationships. This is a how-to book, with doable exercises and active tips and suggestions for what to say and do to increase emotional autonomy and self-awareness.
If you're ready to stop putting your own needs last, clear the clutter of self-doubt, and move beyond the fear of judgment and punishment that's been instilled in you by emotionally immature parents, this book will help you find the freedom to finally live your life your way.
From the author of the New York Times bestseller, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, this essential guide offers daily, practical ways to help you heal the invisible wounds caused by immature parents, nurture self-awareness, trust your emotions, improve relationships, and stop putting others' needs ahead of your own.
If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you probably still struggle with anger, sadness, resentment, or shame. As a child, your emotional needs were not met, your feelings were dismissed, and you likely took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent's behavior. Somewhere along the way, you lost your sense of self. And without this strong sense of self, you may feel like your own well-being isn't valuable.
In this compassionate guide--written just for you, not them--you'll find tips and tools to help you set boundaries with others, honor and validate your emotions, and thrive in the face of life's challenges. You'll discover how to protect yourself from hurtful behavior, stop making excuses for others' limitations, forge healthier relationships, and feel more confident in your life. Most importantly, you'll learn how to stop putting others' needs before your own, and manage daily stressors with competence, clarity, and optimism.
Self-care means honoring and respecting the self. But when you grow up with emotionally immature parents, you are taught that setting limits is selfish and uncaring. You are taught to seek approval instead of authenticity in relationships. And you are taught that empathy and emotional awareness are liabilities, rather than assets. But there's another way to go through life--one in which you can take care of yourself, first and foremost.
Let this book guide you toward a new way of being.
From the author of the New York Times bestseller, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, this handbook offers essential, practical solutions to help you disentangle from emotionally immature people, stand up for your self, and transform your relationships.
If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met or dismissed--and you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, and abandonment as a result. As an adult, you have fought hard to establish your own sense of self, and heal the invisible wounds caused by your upbringing.
But what about other emotionally immature people (EIP) in your life? EIPs are often unpredictable, volatile, and difficult to handle. They tend to be me-first people, with little regard for others. They may not respect you as an individual--which can be isolating, hurtful, and lonely. As an adult child of an emotionally immature parent (ACEIP), you may be particularly vulnerable to EIPs. But you are not powerless! If you're tired of being emotionally hijacked by EIPs, this handbook can help you avoid common traps, build confidence, and stand strong in your self.
In this must-have guide, author Lindsay Gibson provides everyday solutions to help you manage relationships with any emotionally immature person. You'll find practical insights and explorations into the most common challenges ACEIPs face, and practical guidance to help set boundaries and establish healthier relationships. You'll also learn to handle difficult interactions with EIPs, understand their responses, and transform your relationships to build a happier life.
It's time to disentangle from EIPs! As an ACEIP, you have spent a lifetime compensating for others' behavior and putting your needs last. With this handbook, you'll find the information you need to understand how EIPs function, shift your own perspective regarding these relationships, and stand up for your self without guilt, shame, or fear.
Help your clients heal the emotional wounds created by growing up with emotionally immature parents.
If you treat clients who grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or self-involved parent, you know all too well the lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment these clients experience in their daily lives. This comprehensive professional guide goes beyond mechanistic prescriptions to show you how to help clients not only recover from their symptoms--such as a lack of confidence--but to also restart their own personal growth and self-actualization process.
In Treating Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Lindsay C. Gibson draws on more than thirty years of clinical experience as a psychotherapist, and outlines a unique approach to treating an extremely common syndrome that shapes the lives of so many people seeking therapy. In the book, Gibson also shares her perspectives on the goals of therapy, and what therapists need to know in order to provide the most effective interventions. Using these insights, you can help your clients heal from feelings of loneliness and abandonment, improve confidence, decrease reactivity to emotionally immature behavior, find healthy ways to stop self-sacrificing and meet their own emotional needs, and rediscover their true selves.
You'll also find powerful, effective therapeutic strategies to:
By helping clients free themselves from the effects of emotionally immature people--whether their parents or other people in their lives--you'll help them to create healthy, reciprocal, and positive relationships that uplift them and improve their overall quality of life.