We can't always control what happens to us. But we can discover how to heal the hidden hurt it leaves behind.

If you're like many of us, you carry a weight of buried pain. Despite looking put together on the outside, you feel secretly fractured within. While you appear strong and resilient on the outside, inside a storm brews of all the ways you've been hurt or harmed. There's a constant churn of unprocessed feelings of shame, anger, grief, or loneliness. And your body tells the story of its struggles in a myriad of aches and ailments. Little by little, you find yourself becoming disconnected from who you truly are. Not knowing what to do with your suffering and fearing you'll be hurt again, you've learned to cope, to numb and suppress the ache within.

It doesn't have to be this way. In Healing What's Within, therapist and professor Chuck DeGroat invites you on a compassionate journey inward to return and retune to the life God created you to live. Along the way, you will discover how to:

• Gently consider and confront what's keeping you stuck and blocking the path to joy and flourishing
• Better understand the relationship between your body and your emotions
• Experience God as a compassionate witness to your trauma--and his unconditional kindness to wherever you find yourself
• Discover real rest and renewal as you reconnect with God, others, and yourself.

It's never too late to start healing. God's heart is always ready to help you find your way Home.

The Exodus story is your story.

The Israelites' liberation from Egypt and journey to the promised land is one the Bible's most compelling narratives. But the Exodus isn't just a long-ago Bible story. We each find ourselves enslaved: to work, to destructive relationships, to food, to spending . . . but beyond our personal Egypt lies God's promised land.

Author and theologian Chuck DeGroat shows how our wilderness journey helps us face our fears, receive our new identity, experience transformation, and live into our newfound freedom. Discussion questions follow each chapter.

Chuck DeGroat has been counseling pastors with narcissistic personality disorder and those wounded by narcissistic leaders for over twenty years. Offering compassion and hope for both narcissists themselves and those affected by its destructive power, DeGroat imparts wise counsel for churches looking to heal from its systemic effects.

Outreach Resource of the Year

Why Does Narcissism Seem to Thrive in Our Churches?

We've seen the news stories. Maybe we ourselves have been hurt by a narcissistic church leader. But what is narcissism, really? And how does it infiltrate the church?

Chuck DeGroat has been counseling pastors with narcissistic personality disorder, as well as those wounded by narcissistic leaders and systems, for over twenty years. He knows firsthand the devastation narcissism leaves in its wake and how insidious and painful it is. In When Narcissism Comes to Church, DeGroat

• takes a close look at narcissism, not only in ministry leaders but also in church systems;
• offers compassion and hope for those affected by its destructive power and;
• imparts wise counsel for churches looking to heal from its systemic effects.

DeGroat also offers hope for narcissists themselves--not by any shortcut, but by the long, slow road of genuine recovery through repentance and trust in the gospel of Jesus.

People -- frustrating, confusing, disappointing, complicated -- are the most difficult part of leadership, and they challenge leaders everywhere, from leaders of many to managers of a few. In this book Chuck DeGroat addresses the flawed nature of people and offers wisdom for leaders of all types in dealing with just about anyone who is difficult to lead and to love.

Toughest People to Love explores the basics of how people tick, encouraging leaders to examine and take care of themselves so that they can better understand and care for others. Based on DeGroat's wealth of experience as a pastor, professor, and therapist, this book -- both wise and practical -- is one that countless leaders will go back to time and again for valuable insights and renewed vision.

*This is the Type Four Edition of the book, including specific content for enneagram Type Fours*

How does your personality type help and hinder your ability to make wise decisions? We are too often rich in information and poor in wisdom. And when we encounter life's decisions, big and small, we engage the information available through the lens of our personality. The Enneagram of Discernment: The Way of Vocation, Wisdom, and Practice breaks new ground in the enneagram field, introducing Dr. Drew Moser's innovative approach to exploring the enneagram to discover calling, cultivate wisdom, and develop habits that help you make wise decisions, whether they be important or mundane.

This is not your ordinary enneagram book. Weaving theology, spirituality, neuroscience, and psychology, Dr. Moser introduces you to The Way of Discernment: a journey of nine key questions each of us must consider when faced with a decision. Each of these nine questions are grouped into three triads: The Vocation Triad, The Wisdom Triad, and The Practice Triad. This is an enneagram resource for anyone looking for help in making better decisions. Whether you're new to the enneagram, or have been working with the enneagram for many years, The Enneagram of Discernment is an essential resource.

*This is the Type One Edition of the book, including specific content for enneagram Type Ones*

How does your personality type help and hinder your ability to make wise decisions? We are too often rich in information and poor in wisdom. And when we encounter life's decisions, big and small, we engage the information available through the lens of our personality. The Enneagram of Discernment: The Way of Vocation, Wisdom, and Practice breaks new ground in the enneagram field, introducing Dr. Drew Moser's innovative approach to exploring the enneagram to discover calling, cultivate wisdom, and develop habits that help you make wise decisions, whether they be important or mundane.

This is not your ordinary enneagram book. Weaving theology, spirituality, neuroscience, and psychology, Dr. Moser introduces you to The Way of Discernment: a journey of nine key questions each of us must consider when faced with a decision. Each of these nine questions are grouped into three triads: The Vocation Triad, The Wisdom Triad, and The Practice Triad. This is an enneagram resource for anyone looking for help in making better decisions. Whether you're new to the enneagram, or have been working with the enneagram for many years, The Enneagram of Discernment is an essential resource.

Chuck DeGroat has been counseling pastors with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, as well as those wounded by narcissistic leaders, for over twenty years. Offering compassion and hope for both narcissists themselves and those affected by its destructive power, DeGroat takes a close look at this insidious issue and imparts wise counsel for churches looking to heal from its systemic effects

*This is the Type One Edition of the book, including specific content for enneagram Type Ones*How does your personality type help and hinder your ability to make wise decisions? We are too often rich in information and poor in wisdom. And when we encounter life's decisions, big and small, we engage the information available through the lens of our personality. The Enneagram of Discernment: The Way of Vocation, Wisdom, and Practice breaks new ground in the enneagram field, introducing Dr. Drew Moser's innovative approach to exploring the enneagram to discover calling, cultivate wisdom, and develop habits that help you make wise decisions, whether they be important or mundane. This is not your ordinary enneagram book. Weaving theology, spirituality, neuroscience, and psychology, Dr. Moser introduces you to The Way of Discernment: a journey of nine key questions each of us must consider when faced with a decision. Each of these nine questions are grouped into three triads: The Vocation Triad, The Wisdom Triad, and The Practice Triad. This is an enneagram resource for anyone looking for help in making better decisions. Whether you're new to the enneagram, or have been working with the enneagram for many years, The Enneagram of Discernment is an essential resource.

*This is the Type Two Edition of the book, including specific content for enneagram Type Twos. You can also purchase the Comprehensive Edition that includes all Types.* How does your personality type help and hinder your ability to make wise decisions? We are too often rich in information and poor in wisdom. And when we encounter life's decisions, big and small, we engage the information available through the lens of our personality. The Enneagram of Discernment: The Way of Vocation, Wisdom, and Practice breaks new ground in the enneagram field, introducing Dr. Drew Moser's innovative approach to exploring the enneagram to discover calling, cultivate wisdom, and develop habits that help you make wise decisions, whether they be important or mundane. This is not your ordinary enneagram book. Weaving theology, spirituality, neuroscience, and psychology, Dr. Moser introduces you to The Way of Discernment: a journey of nine key questions each of us must consider when faced with a decision. Each of these nine questions are grouped into three triads: The Vocation Triad, The Wisdom Triad, and The Practice Triad. This is an enneagram resource for anyone looking for help in making better decisions. Whether you're new to the enneagram, or have been working with the enneagram for many years, The Enneagram of Discernment is an essential resource.

I'm being pulled in a thousand different directions.

As a therapist, Chuck DeGroat hears that line all the time. I hear it from students and software developers, he says. I hear it from spiritual leaders and coffee baristas. And I hear it from my own inner self.

We all feel that nasty pull to and fro, the frantic busyness that exhausts us and threatens to undo us. And we all think we know the solution -- more downtime, more relaxation, more rest. And we're all wrong.

As DeGroat himself has discovered, the real solution to what pulls us apart is wholeheartedness, a way of living and being that can transform us from the inside out. And that's what readers of this book will discover too.

Una obra esencial para pastores, líderes y consejeros, el Dr. DeGroat desentraña el devastador impacto del narcisismo dentro de la iglesia, proporciona estrategias para reconocer la curación del abuso emocional y espiritual en las comunidades de fe y, en última instancia, invita a los lectores a un viaje de autodescubrimiento, curación y restauración.

Con un enfoque compasivo pero incisivo, el Dr. DeGroat, terapeuta licenciado, director espiritual, líder de retiros y autor, aborda tanto la comprensión del narcisismo como las formas en que este fenómeno se manifiesta en los líderes y sistemas eclesiásticos. Esta obra esencial ayuda al lector a comprender mejor:

• Cómo se presentan el narcisismo y el abuso espiritual en los diferentes tipos de personalidad del Eneagrama
• Las características del narcisismo
• La dinámica de los sistemas narcisistas

El Dr. DeGroat también ofrece una profunda reflexión sobre la naturaleza del narcisismo y su relación con la cultura occidental contemporánea, así como su devastador impacto en las comunidades de fe.

Sin limitarse a la crítica, este libro ofrece también un camino de sanación y transformación tanto para quienes se han visto afectados por el narcisismo como para quienes luchan contra estas tendencias en su propio liderazgo y vida espiritual. Con una combinación de sabiduría clínica, perspicacia teológica y compasión pastoral, DeGroat invita a los lectores a un viaje de autodescubrimiento, sanación y restauración.

When Narcissism Comes to Church

An essential work for pastors, leaders, and counselors, Dr. DeGroat unravels the devastating impact of narcissism within the church, provides strategies for recognizing healing emotional and spiritual abuse in faith communities and ultimately invites readers on a journey of self-discovery, healing, and restoration.

With a compassionate, yet incisive approach, licensed therapist, spiritual director, retreat leader, and author Dr. DeGroat addresses both the understanding of narcissism and the ways in which this phenomenon manifests in church leaders and systems. This essential helps the reader to better understand:

• How narcissism and spiritual abuse present themselves in different Enneagram personality types
• The characteristics of narcissism
• The dynamics of narcissistic systems

Not limited to criticism, this book also offers a path to healing and transformation for both those who have been affected by narcissism and those who struggle with these tendencies in their own leadership and spiritual life. With a combination of clinical wisdom, theological insight, and pastoral compassion, DeGroat invites readers on a journey of self-discovery, healing, and restoration.